We all know that our physical energy comes from nutrients and exercise. But that is only a part of the energy story. We also derive energy from our thoughts and emotions. And from the cosmos – more about this later.
The level of this energy determines the quality of our life – our relationships, the decisions we take, our physical health, our emotional well-being, our finances and our self-image. Therefore, it is very important to understand how this energy is sourced, how it can be maintained, how it can get dissipated and how it is interchanged with others. In this article, I focused on the direct and two way coupling between thoughts, emotions and energy. I have given a small recent incident to illustrate my point.
Our thoughts and emotions are interrelated – thought produces emotions, and emotions affect the content and quantity of our thoughts! When we are enjoying the beauty of nature or sitting spellbound in a music concert, we may not have many thoughts. After a difficult day, our thoughts may be of complaints and criticism, and emotions could be anger, frustration, self-pity or disappointment.
Thoughts and emotions are not just about the current event. They trigger a chain reaction (how we are a victim, how unfair things have been and so on) and it takes a huge effort to come out of it. And if this happens often enough, we are really caught in an inextricable situation. (We think the reality is producing the emotions, but it is the other way around.) Doesn’t matter what causes what – it is a downward spiral.
Unquestioned thoughts become our beliefs. They are formed from our adult life experience or they may be part of our early childhood or our family values/culture. Or deep in the past (from other lives!). Doesn’t matter where they came from, what do I do now?
To add to this personal story is the story of the collective. Our thoughts and emotions are not just our personal responses to an event, but we share our psyche with the community, gender, race, country and the profession we belong to. We buy into the expectations, assumptions and judgements of the collective. This collective has archetypes, for example for relationships: what does it mean to be a wife/a husband? A son/a daughter? A mother/a father? A woman/a man? A worker/ A boss?
You can find a whole lot of literature on these aspects, but the question I want to answer in this article is – am I supposed to be just a product and helpless victim of all these complicated and interrelated factors (on which I have no control)? Or do I have a choice in my life? And the answer is a strong YES to choice! Here are a few tips to manage your energy and have a life you want. It is in no way exhaustive, but it is tested and simple and doable.
- Whatever thought or emotion you pay attention to expands. If you are feeling good (appreciative, kind, happy, satisfied….), then you get more of that. If you are feeling unsatisfied (complaining, criticizing, like a victim….), then you get more of that. Life gives us all kinds of experiences – good and bad. It is in our own interest that we shift our attention to feeling good as quickly as possible, even after a bad experience. This seems like a clichéd advice. But it really works. Every time. Without fail. This is a law- like gravity. Also called law of attraction. But difficult to see the silver lining to the cloud when it is overcast. (And you want to say: very easy for you to advise – do you have any idea how awful I am feeling? How uniquely difficult my situation is?) But I know it. I have been there many times. If you can’t look for good in a given situation, go to the past or future. Relive some happy emotions or be confident that the future is unfolding with good experiences.
I recently realized how my self-criticism had drawn into my life people who were not acknowledging my contribution. Also by constant complaining, I was having more things to complain about. I felt very disconnected! One day, I said enough of it and made a list of all the successful and happy events of my life and also affirmed that such things were again possible for me. I looked at it several times and connected with the pleasant emotions. And combined with other energy exercises, they shifted my life in a really dramatic way! I could get back my zest!
- Question hidden thoughts and beliefs. Unlearn what is no longer serving you. In our life we have such strong definitions of right and wrong, good and bad (and some coming from the collective) that we have eliminated a huge number of choices. We are not even aware of these definitions. So, ask questions and don’t dig for answers (or you will stay stuck in analysis and attract more of it). Just throw the question and you will get an answer later – attune to guidance. This simple act of questioning will release locked thoughts from your mind. Sample questions: what assumptions, definitions and expectations (of myself or others) am I using to create this situation? to perceive this situation? What else is possible here if I drop that? Am I subconsciously using patterns of the collective? Is there a message for me from this person or situation? Is this a repetitive situation in my life? Did I miss the message earlier? Feel free to innovate the questions. Instruct your mind to unlearn. Use some catchphrase like “shift” or “delete” or “cancel” or “uninstall” (or anything else that feels right for you) to make this happen. In my case, I had lot of unquestioned definitions of work, of my image, of power etc. I would get sudden insights of how absurd my assumptions were and how I was limiting myself.
- An effective way of changing our emotions and thoughts is by working on the energy body. I picked up Eden Energy Medicine and did her daily energy routine, radiant circuits and few other exercises to strengthen the aura. Having worked with thoughts and emotions for a long time, I find it very interesting to see how changing the energy shifts my thoughts. I am in awe of this process. The quality of my thoughts changed, my emotions of anger and resentment dissolved and I feel a sense of peace. Meditation helps in connecting us to the cosmic energy but energy exercises are good for kinesthetic people and also for those who have too much thinking.
- For some time, keep away from old and habitual thinking and talking (or people who get you into your old track). Acknowledge and appreciate any small shifts you see. Let the momentum build for positive change. Thank the energy and the universe for helping and guiding you. In my case, I consciously avoided gossiping, then such things reduced by themselves and later I was strong enough to maintain my positivity. My colleagues have noticed the shift. I notice and appreciate it.
So to recap; our energy, our thoughts and emotions and our experiences are intricately woven. We think that our reality creates our thoughts and emotions, but it is the other way around. Our vibration, our thoughts and our emotions have created our current reality. And it is totally in our hands to create a different reality by shifting our attention, by questioning our beliefs and thoughts and by working on our energy body.
It can be very joyful when we understand this relationship and see it working!